As adults you and your ex have to deal with parenting issues no matter how old your child is. Divorce doesn’t change what your child needs. Your child still needs love and affection and a sense of security. He or she needs consistency in his life. His world has fallen apart because of the divorce, and it is for you to focus on him and not on any power struggle or revenge with your ex.

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Over the years I have often heard gurus talk about practicing being grateful. In the beginning I didn’t pay too much attention. And then I would practice for one day, and forget about it for the next seven! It is very difficult to see the good in our lives when we are going through the pain of divorce, right?

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It’s very interesting to listen to people talk about their lives when they are not too self-conscious. You pick up on a lot of little details that show how illogical the human mind can be when it comes to emotions and romantic ties.

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Understanding the essence of conflict in relationships with your ex after divorce (or even in a current relationship) is helpful for recognizing it and learning how to deal with it in a healthy and helpful way. Here are some basic principles to consider: Read More→

This hasn’t been a very good weekend for me. The engine coolant leaked out of my RAV4 seconds after I parked it in my underground driveway on Friday. Pretty pink colour gushed out, and then it was drip, drip, and drip, followed by some more gushing out. My heart sank. I looked at it panicked – WHAT is this pink stuff? How on earth am I going to clean up this mess? How could this happen to my new car? Wait! I thought, it’s not new anymore – it’s almost three years old – actually in a week it will have passed its 3-year warranty period. How time flies, because it still feels new to me, and so far it has been a great car. But I guess it’s time for it to start acting up!

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Guilt is an odd emotion to deal with during marriage as well as after a divorce. Many people stay in a dead-end relationship because they feel guilty for “giving up” on their marriage. In the back of their minds they feel things may change or there may be a way to solve their problems, so their thoughts of just throwing in the towel bring tremendous guilt and a feeling of shame.

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The truth of today is likely to be very different from the truth of yesterday when it comes to matters of the heart. If you are struggling with lingering guilt, regret, and other emotions from your divorce, think about how your emotional truth has changed.

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There are some very simple words in our language that are harmless in most situations, but which can lead to the destruction of a relationship if couples use them as weapons against one another. Oftentimes they are used without realizing how they sound and feel to the other person.

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Manipulative behavior is anything designed to force you into actions or commitments that you don’t necessarily want to make. In a relationship, manipulative behavior often starts out very subtle but it can quickly turn into a huge problem in the relationship.

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Did you make a long list of all the requirements for your husband (or wife) when you were younger? If so, how many of those attributes did your first husband end up possessing? If you didn’t make that list, you probably have an idea of what your dream partner would have looked like back then. Looking back now you may realize how unrealistic that list of desired attributes really was.

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